Give him a heads-up that you want to chat, so you both have time to think about what you want to say.3. Sometimes a shared sense of nostalgia for what the two of you used to do can be enough to lead you down the path of talking about sex openly, says Sharky.You could say, "Remember when we used to spend hours just kissing?If you don't tell him what works (and doesn't work anymore), how will he know? All of His Exes Are "Crazy" Be wary of a man who refers to his former girlfriends as crazy, psycho, or clingy — because what's the common denominator here? The dude's either looney-bin glue, or he never really wanted the relationship to work in the first place. He Plans Ultra-Romantic Dates A cozy candlelit dinner is nice and all, but if he takes you to secluded places, it could be a tip-off that he doesn't want other women to spot him on a date.I miss that." Or, "I loved when you used to just grab me from behind; it made me feel so wanted."4.
He said he'd joined determined to overcome his intimacy fears but hadn't been moved by any of the women he'd met. I want to hear your voice."He called me that night, and was even smarter and funnier on the phone.Got tickets to a concert he's dying to see or game he wants to check out? That way, if he can't make it, you can still have a great time with a friend.If you can't quite bring yourself to suggest solo time together, try inviting him out with a bunch of your friends which will make you feel more at ease. After flirting for a bit say something like, "Have you heard about this new movie? I'm not looking for a relationship; I was just trying to have some e-mail fun.""E-mail fun? But his e-mail felt emotionally honest, and despite his obvious issues, I liked him. Within weeks, we were talking every day; that quickly developed into an obsessive six to eight hours a day. This guy had already managed to hurt me, in the space of just two weeks. We spoke for hours about everything, from our damaged childhoods to jobs to exes to first kisses.Next time he asks you out, suggest hitting up a busy restaurant or popular bar and see how he reacts. He's Hot and Cold on the Phone He'll text you 10 times in a night, then go MIA for days.