He hasn't been hospitalised for over 5 years now (he's 32). Also I have begun to feel depressed over the last few months, I read today on an internet site that the partner of a schizophrenic is likely to develop depression, & a good support network is important. There are a lot of people that are nice and you can make some good friends and get some good advice. I thought the empathy issue was part of his condition, it didn't occur to me that this could be a personality trait. We went for coffee to try & talk things over, He wanted to meet at 3pm, as he 'had to have an early night because he had an early start at work the next day'.He looks so much happier & healthy since we began seeing each other, & is more confident in himself. It sounds like you are walking on egg shells around him. I hope that things get better or you figure out what will happen. Around 6pm he received a phone call from his friends to find out what time they were meeting up for a drink(he doesn't take his meds when he drinks alcohol)."We took a walk in a park, and it was toward the end of summer -- a gorgeous, beautiful day. and he said he had had a 'schizophrenic break.'" For some couples, that might have been the end.
But these ties take a lot of effort from both partners.By doing this, you can catch the problem in its earlier stages, allowing the person to be able to move back towards living a normal life.The first signs of schizophrenia as a mental illness usually occur between youth and young adulthood.At the moment though, I am beginning to feel worn down by constantly making allowances for him, I wouldn't allow an 'average' guy to treat me this way. I know you love him, but he could be this way for the rest of his life, you never know. I would be upset if he kept me from his friends and family personally. I got the distinct impression that he had been just 'killing time' with me until he could meet up with his drinking buddies, so I decided then to end it.I love him a lot & I believe he loves me too (he's said he does...)I suppose what I'm really asking is can I expect our relationship to evolve, or will I always be a compmentalised part of his life? It doesn't sound like your boyfriend is this extreme. If he's taking his medications, he should be stable. It could be part of his personality to not want you a part of his friends and family. Maybe others have some other situations that it turned out good. He needs to talk to you and you both need to put how you feel. He offered to come round to mine after he'd been out for 'a drink'. It's hard to walk away from someone you love, but harder to live with the fact that one is being 'used' (whether intentionally or not) Aw, I'm sorry that this happened. Of course, he didn't have the mental illness, I do, but it hurts and it's not fair. I know you will find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!! The daughter replied see, she can't show me any affection without someone directing her. I have been in a relationship for 8 months with my partner(? He has 'insight' into his illness & takes his prescribed meds, I thought he was maybe just a little shy & eccentric when we first met, but early on in the relationship he told me about much separate from the rest of his life.