Rule #2 Don’t be a cliché – he doesn’t need to know your life plan on a first date.Having said that, if you are a dating a guy who is clearly a player or just in it for a bit of fun, stop wasting your time.Otherwise, you'll be falling in and out of relationships where these things get determined for you."2.Cultivate yourself In the meantime, read a great book, go for walks, try that dancing class you've always wanted to attend, and spend time with your friends." Marriage-minded men are drawn to happy women, not unhappy women looking for a relationship to stop the pain of the single days," states Beyer.You don’t want to hear it, but, there are same basic rules of dating as a women, post thirty-five, that are worth following … Which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (give me Angelina Jolie over Emma Watson any day) but it does mean you need to be realistic about the kind of men you’re going for.Because the bastard about life is, that most thirty-five-year-old men are looking for a very different thing to most thirty-five-year-old woman.
I’m all for casual sex with barmen you know are never going to call you again, at any age, but then I’m not looking for a husband – if commitment is something you want, then act serious about it and stop wasting time with guys who are never going to give you any. Once you’ve decided to stop dating time-wasters (both in age – not their fault, and attitude – their fault) it’s time to think about your expectations. This isn’t an arranged marriage; you’ll have second and third dates to share more. A glass of wine is fine, but try to get to know each other sober. (Note: If you offer to split the bill, be prepared to actually split the bill. Hemming and hawing all night — “I don’t know, what do you think? The world today is full of ‘helpful’ advice – useful tips about finding your inner goddess, meeting the men of your dreams and stumbling on true love.