Suddenly, we are wrapped up in the idea of a romance with a person we don’t even know yet.A month later, they are driving us nuts as we get to know them, but now they have a sock drawer at our house and breaking up is so hard and complicated.With that in mind, here are seven great questions to ask on a first date. " Very few people ask this question, but it's a great way to get to know someone—especially if you live in a larger city with lots of transplants.
But really, why wait and get emotionally involved only to have your heart broken when could’ve gleaned this information on the first date?Every time you go out on a date, you open up the gate wide and invite someone in to enjoy your fruits before you know they are trustworthy. This act of gatekeeping protects our hearts and helps us to avoid making quick emotional decisions that cause more relational havoc.Unfortunately, instead of caring for your plants, they ravage your garden. Good questions can save you months of heartache if you listen to the answers and move forward based on reality (rather than an idealization of a Disney/fantasy relationship). Here are four that you should try to cover on any first date.1. This very direct question might surprise your date. The nervous laughs, the desire to impress and the hope of finding “the one” is juxtaposed with the lingering memories of more bad first dates than good ones.And in that awkward and uncomfortable space, we make all sorts of bad decisions to avoid the unknown, like using alcohol to relax or sexual intimacy to connect.Plus, you can tailor any question to avoid the dreaded one-word answer and keep the conversation going so long as you're aware of your phrasing.