I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.If we wanted to read your profile, we'd have gone to it.An online dating message is not the same (thank GOD) as a job application.Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.So you’ve set up the perfect online dating profile with your best profile pic. While there’s plenty of fish in the sea, you want to catch one.
Overall, more informal standard greetings did very well.After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, Ok Cupid.So rather than a simple “hey,” or “hi,” go for a “howdy,” which received almost a 45% response rating!Out of all the online dating message tips, this one is simple.You might as well find out right away if your senses of humor* line up.*Bonus advice: Please don't just write "I have a good sense of humor" and expect everyone to believe you. It's good to express enthusiasm for shared interests, but don't make them up, and don't be weird about it.