Italians have a very particular way of doing things.
They are proud of their heritage and love their home country. This may also be what makes Italian men so self-assured when approaching foreign women.
Many will basically pick girls up anywhere, anytime—from asking what book you are reading on the metro, to asking if you know where the wine is in the supermarket, to literally stopping you in the street with a moped (yup, happened).
Many guys will offer a personal tour of the city, which can be quite romantic if you’re into the guy.
Even in serious relationships some men will consider it perfectly normal to have mistresses; it’s a part of life as opposed to a crime and it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.
He may even expect you to get a lover (and go mad with jealousy if you do).
This can have an upside though, as they do make an effort to get your attention. Here are some tips: Due to this open-mindedness, Italian men are often still close friends with their exes.
A girl I know was invited to dinner with her boyfriend’s ex and her family, which she politely declined.
It’s difficult to picture who in God’s name has time for all that pampering and laundering and ironing, until you find out that… My own Italian experience involves a Roman dentist named Mario who lived with his parents until the age of 30, three years after they had purchased him his own apartment. Find me a French man who would do that, and I will find you a monkey that can play Tchaikovsky. She wasn’t even stalking him – he had volunteered his information to “keep in touch”.
There is no holding back on the romance and love declarations. Just beware that what an Italian man would say after one date can sound like something an American man would say after fifty (when drunk and having watched a romantic comedy he actually liked in his slightly altered state). Chances are your Italian guy will not only give you his all in conversations, but also in bed. There’s truth to the stories about Italian men living at home till they get married and then moving two blocks away from their mother.
These romantic declarations should be seen as something he means in the moment. Until you are certain you have the same values, future plans and intentions for the relationship, see everything an Italian man says as meaning something in the moment, not for the future. They like being cared for and to feel extremely special in the eyes of the woman they love.
It was early on a Sunday morning two years ago that I was telling a recent tale of woe and heartbreak to my mother. When you least expect it, your special star will come. Be patient — there are plenty of fish in the sea.” “But I only catch guppies! If you are single, and you are not managing your personal brand — “winking” at folks and setting up coffee dates — well then, you just don’t want it bad enough. So I was back in the game and going to meet Antonio* for dinner. Upon waking up that morning, I realized too late I was out of coffee.
She was making gravy and the comforting smell of onions and olive oil filled the house. Un-caffeinated and out of sorts, I smeared deodorant on my shirt (but didn’t find out until I was already on the bus).