I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life.
I am perpetually indecisive about even the most mundane things, and I couldn’t imagine navigating such a huge life decision so quickly. Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages.
Make sure to read up on their cultures first, and get advice from men who are active in the international dating scene and who know how to act in front of other ladies who have very disparate cultures.
This will help you in breaking the ice and making initial conversation.
Be honest and direct about your intentions when you start dating someone. For those who prefer an equal-opportunity approach to dating, try letting him pay now and then (or at least hold the door for you) without being deeply offended.
Many men like to feel they're leading the way, even if you know you secretly have the upper-hand. In more conservative circles, pastors and parents act as matchmakers.
It may be a world apart from your own hometown, but with an open mind and humble attitude, you will see that their customs are beautiful and that their culture is full of color. It may be a challenge to permeate that outer wall in the beginning, but once you get past that, it becomes an easier thing to do.The authors found that a bunch of 19-year-old college freshmen in the South embraced traditional gender norms.The study is called "To Hook Up or Date: Which Gender Benefits?The question nagged at me—not least because of my own experiences watching promising relationships peter out over text message—so I set out on a mission.I read dozens of studies about love, how people connect and why they do or don’t stay together.Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice.